Do you tend to downplay your achievements and consider them to be achieved out of sheer luck? Constantly convinced that you will be found out as a fraud?
Chances are you are experiencing imposter syndrome, and you’re not alone.
According to the Journal of General Internal Medicine, 82 % of us have felt like an imposter at some point in our lives.
"Impostor syndrome" is used to describe the constant inability to recognise your accomplishments, doubting whether they were achieved as a result of your own efforts and skills.
This is accompanied by the fear of not being as competent as others perceive you to be, leading you to feel like an imposter.
Impostor syndrome tends to arise during moments of success, such as starting a new job, or receiving a promotion. However it’s not always career-related. It can also come to those who may have taken on extra responsibilities in their personal lives, such as becoming a first-time parent, or getting into a new relationship.
Although imposter syndrome is not recognised an official diagnosis, some of the common signs include:
The feelings and beliefs bought on by always feeling a fake can lead to:
While there is no specific cause, there are several underlying factors that contribute to the general experience of imposter syndrome.
Were your parents highly critical of you? Did you not receive much praise or encouragements as a child?
According to research, the way we deal with our success and failure could be influenced from our childhood and family dynamics. This is because most of our core beliefs were formed when we are children, shaping how we see ourselves.
For example, if your achievements often went unacknowledged during your childhood, you may have felt dismissed. This could lead you to assume that your accomplishments are unimportant.
Perfectionists often set impossibly high expectations for themselves and tend to feel like a failure, regardless of their accomplishments or how hard they worked. This may result in an extra level of self-doubt and procrastination.
Mental health conditions associated with low self-confidence and self-esteem, such as social anxiety, has been shown to possibly increase your risk of feeling like a fraud.
Those who struggle with social anxiety tend to experience a level of self-doubt and worry about how they’re being perceived by others. This can fuel impostor cycle, reinforcing the belief that you do not belong.
Whenever faced with uncomfortable emotions, it’s always worth taking the time to acknowledge how we feel without any judgement or shame. This makes it easier to identify why you feel the way you do, allowing you to address it. It also helps you to rationalise your thoughts, easing those nagging moments of self-doubt.
So, the next time you start feeling like an imposter, pause and observe how you really feel.
While it’s not easy talking about our inner fears, sharing how you’re feeling can reduce the intensity of it. Talking to others can not only make us feel less alone, but it can also help us make sense of how we’re feeling. Whether it’s to a friend or someone you trust, it’s important to feel supported.
Sometimes, we need a gentle reminder of our own brilliance. Reaffirming your worth is a great way to challenge your inner critic.
Rather than worrying about the expectations of others, bring your awareness back to what you have already accomplished. Start small, and focus on your strengths and achievements.
Once you’ve acknowledged those, you can begin practising giving yourself praise for your past and current efforts.
Working with a talk therapist can allow you to explore the roots of how you’re feeling in a safe, non-judgmental environment.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), for example, can be a great place to start. It helps you to recognise any negative core beliefs that are upholding your imposter syndrome, providing you with the best tools to move forward.
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Claudia Cole is a London-based writer and journalist. She is passionate about sustainable living, mental health, and wellbeing.