Feeling like a failure

by Harley Therapy
Reviewed by Dr Sheri Jacobson

Is the grass always greener? Do you feel inferior and like all your peers are living the dream while you can only get through work, knowing unlimited bowls of cereal and Netflix dramas await you?

Well, you are not alone. Feeling like a failure is only too common. Some people even have a psychological problem called "imposter syndrome," where they feel unworthy of their success.

It’s important to remember your fears about being on the wrong are natural and can actually, if thought about positively, lead you to success. From Walt Disney being told he wasn’t creative enough to Bill Gates' first company crumbling, there are countless stories of people rising like a phoenix from the flames.

Five positive thoughts for when you’re feeling like a failure:

Things didn’t work out as planned but I’m OK

Catastrophising is the last thing you need to do when things don’t quite go to plan. Try to put failure in perspective, choosing to be grateful for what you have instead of focusing upon what you don’t. There are always positives, from having your health, to your home, family and friends.

"My failure just proves I’m over ambitious.”

We could all play it safe. But to become the best you can be, you need to chance failure. Stumbling shows you’re trying hard to accomplish something worthwhile.

"Failing hurts, but I have the resilience to handle it."

Remind yourself you are resilient enough to cope with failure.

"Failure is a verb, not a noun."

You can fail and not be a failure. We all achieve in certain things whilst failing at others. Remind yourself of your successes.

"Recovering from failure can make me stronger."

Each time you recover from obstacles, you grow stronger, mentally. So build that mental muscle. To talk through any concerns with a therapist click here.

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