Global pandemic is enough to worry the staunchest of souls. And if you already suffer from anxiety, you can find yourself experiencing bouts of overwhelming fear.
How can you deal with your feelings of fear?
Trying to 'fight' fear or pretend it isn’t happening doesn’t usually work. It instead leads to feeling numb and dissociated, suddenly seeing that an hour or more has passed and you don’t know where it went.
Acceptance and mindfulness can be far more useful. Hence the saying, ‘the only thing to fear is fear itself’. Take a moment to sink into and honour your fear. It is your body doing its best to protect you.
Breathe deeply and let the sensation of fear flow through your body. It is just a sensation. It is not who you are. And fear itself actually doesn’t hurt you.
Talking to yourself in your head doesn’t seem to do much but ratchet up your fear and anxiety, with one anxious illogic thought holding on to the next until you are climbing a ladder to ever greater panic.
But talking out loud (in privacy!) seems to have a different affect, particularly taking an ‘inner child’ approach and talking to yourself as if you are the mother or father. “I get that you are afraid. It makes perfect sense. In this moment, I am here, hearing your fear. I am going to do what I can to take care of you.”
Or take a page from Gestalt therapy and its 'chair technique'. Put two chairs facing each other. Sit on one, and the other chair becomes the seat of your fear. Talk to the fear as if it’s a person. “You are so big you are scaring me.” Say all you need to say, just letting words come, no matter how 'odd' they sound.
Take things a step further by switching chairs and talking back to ‘yourself’, playacting you are fear! “I am only trying to protect you. I didn’t know I was upsetting you.”. Sounds weird? Sure. But don’t knock it until you have tried it.
Again, ‘thinking through our fear’ doesn’t work. The mind instead will race.
Pen to paper changes that. The fear is in front of you on a page, like something less connected to you. Try free-flow journalling, writing out all your fears unedited, being as wild and terrified and angry as you like, writing big and sloppy, then ripping it up after.
Break a fearful thought down to a balanced one with an annotated version of a CBT therapy ‘thought chart’.
Fear is itself physical. It makes our heart pound, our palms sweat, our muscles tense.
And it can often be counteracted by even more physical exertion. This could be wild dancing to your favourite music, stretching it out with some power yoga, or ‘shaking’, literally bouncing your knees and shaking your arms and relaxing your shoulders and even making big loud exhalations as you go.
A study comparing elite sportsmen and untrained healthy men found that those with an exercise focus had reduced reactions to stressful situations.
Fear triggers the sympathetic nervous system, flooding our body with chemicals to make us alert and ready to ‘fight, flight, or freeze'. What lowers this activation is triggering your opposing nerve system, the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which is designed to slow down your heartbeat and stabilise organs.
Try recommended PNS techniques like:
Numbing out in front of any old Netflix show to avoid fear is a temporary measure…. When the film stops, the fear is still there.
But laughing is different. It affects your physiology. So try to watch a comedian you can count on to make you laugh.
A classic study on laughter by medical researcher Dr. Lee Berk found it lowered stress hormones such as cortisol, meaning it's also good for the immune system.
But a trained talk therapist is an expert at helping people navigate fear and anxiety. And with Skype therapy, you don’t have to leave home. You just log in from your computer from the safety of your living room.
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