Is the world getting you down lately? You just feel tired of everything and like giving up?
Make a list of all you expect of yourself in the next few weeks.
Make a list of all of your expectations of your loved ones as well. Would it save you more energy and time to just expect less?
Every mountain is made of tiny bits of rubble. And while moving a mountain is exhausting, moving aside a pebble is manageable.
You know what is exhausting? Negative thinking. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) talks about a ‘loop’ we get stuck in. A negative thought causes negative emotions, which makes our body feel uncomfortable, which leads to negative actions, which leave us feeling worse.
Try to catch your negative thoughts in your head (mindfulness can help here). And then when you do, learn to question the thought.
When we feel emotionally tired, we can also suddenly feel physically tired, even when we have slept and eaten well.
But exercise is shown to affect the chemicals in our bodies that then effect our moods. So even if you feel too tired to do anything, try to at least go for a walk, and you will find you get your energy back after.
Research looking at the medical records of almost eight thousand people found that even if you are genetically inclined to suffer depression, exercise means you are more likely to avoid having episodes.
Ever talk to a trusted friend about something bothering you, then feel light and energised after? We can feel tired of everything if we are repressing all our feelings. Getting them out brings back out 'juice'.
Of course we aren’t all comfortable talking with friends. Or perhaps our friends are tired of our issues. Consider writing it all out, or trying expressive art or dance. Or use exercise, a punching bag, or even punching pillows to get out your emotions.
So you feel dead lately, and a friend tells you that the secret is to do expressive dance around the living room for half an hour each night. You try it and feel worse after, like a clumsy idiot.
Wellbeing is personal. What works to make your friends and partners feel good won't necessarily work for you.
If low moods have us exhausted, reaching out the wrong person, who brushes us off or diminishes our concerns, can leave us feeling worse. This can particularly be the case if it's a family member or loved one we expected more from.
Choose your support system wisely, and don't overlook working with a professional. A coach or counsellor will listen in ways that leave you feeling seen, then just ask just the right questions to help you get unstuck and start feeling yourself again.
Ready to stop letting low moods zap your energy? Stop feeling tired of everything and start feeling happy with yourself and your life by booking a therapist now.