Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms
by Harley Therapy | Psychological Issues
It might be time to learn the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD).
1. If someone dares reject or abandon you? There are consequences.
At the heart of borderline personality disorder is a deep fear of being abandoned. If you even vaguely feel you are about to be rejected -- a slightly off remark by a partner, say, or hearing a rumour that a friend said something behind your back? You act out. You might break up with the partner out of the blue, refuse to talk to the friend ever again, or take quick and swift revenge.
2. It’s a case of act now, think later….
Speaking of that revenge... you might regret it later, but the thing is, you just can’t seem to stop yourself. You have what psychologists call ‘impulsivity’, where you act before you think things through. And you can just get so.... angry.
It's not just relationships. You are also impulsive and reckless in other ways. You spend money you don't have, have sex with people and regret it (especially as you didn't use protection, even thought you knew you should). You quit your job out of the blue, get drunk when you have to get up early for an exam the next day, drive dangerously for kicks.
3. Your emotions go from zero to 100 in a flash.
You are happy, over the moon, even. Having one of those perfect days. And then you receive a text from the person you are dating, cancelling your meet up that night with no reason given.
4. You are seriously sensitive.
People always tell you that you overreact, and that you are too sensitive. They might be right, but at the same time, from your perspective, people are being mean to you, or treating you unfairly. It's not your fault you seem to be missing some emotional 'skin' other people have.
5. You fall in love fast and hard… and then it’s over.
The thing is, it always happens this way, and people are starting to say you’ve got a problem. Which might be true, as there is a long string of broken relationships behind you.
6. People call you intense. You are just trying to be you, whoever that is....
You aren’t trying to be intense. You are just being you. Or trying to, because you feel one way when you are with certain people, and then another way around someone else. It's like you naturally adjust to each situation.
Sometimes you do feel like people are magnetised to you, though, even like you have a special power. But then sometimes you are aware that people find you ‘too much’, and you secretly feel ashamed.
7. When it all gets to much, you have secret tactics.
It might just be a cut here, a burn there. Just enough to create a numb feeling that stops your overwhelming emotions. But it's self-harm. And you can't stop doing it.
Or maybe you overeat to get that numb feeling. Eating until your stomach hurts and you wonder how you'll afford groceries, now you ate the entire week's worth.
8. You share your suicidal thoughts.
If a partner really upsets you then you tell them you'll just kill yourself. Is that what they want? Sometimes the words just come out your mouth. Other times you feel so empty inside you wonder if it's actually a good idea. Then people would feel sorry for how they treat you, wouldn't they?
9. You experienced abuse in your childhood.
You might have experienced child sexual abuse in the past. A large percentage of those with BPD have.
This sounds familiar. What do I do?
Be wary of self diagnosis. We can all, at different times in our life, have symptoms that match personality disorders. Really having a personality disorder means we have these symptoms all the time, in most areas of our life, and that we have seen the world differently like this since we were a teen.
Is today the day you decide to make a change and finally get the help you deserve? Book a therapist you like at a price you can afford, and be on your way to feeling better.