Dr Tej .

Excellent in all senses. Tej took me from the suicidal, esteem-depleted professional I had become after two years of working in a toxic and dehumanising working environment to someone in control...

Excellent in all senses. Tej took me from the suicidal, esteem-depleted professional I had become after two years of working in a toxic and dehumanising working environment to someone in control and aware of my own and others' negative patterns, making myself more prepared to navigate in life without letting my mind go unchecked led by my previous trauma(s). I had the chance to put what she taught me to the test in a few critical situations I have been through after I left my job (a process that was in motion but in a very conflicting way before I started sessions with Tej half-way through my leaving) and instead of the depression and complete paralysis, I have managed to go through and past them and not add more baggage to slow me down, instead, investing my energies on productive actions. From a personal level, Tej is very empathetic and relates to you in a warm and very professional way. This was very good as I never felt judged or like I was talking to someone who was getting paid to listen to me as some therapists make you feel (if you have been through therapy before you will know that feeling of talking to someone who seems to be distant just analysing you). My therapy is not over but I thought it would be good to let others know!

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When I say Tej saved my life, I am not exaggerating. I went to Tej during a mental breakdown, intense bursts of anger, paranoia and trigger responses. I felt crazy, out of control, ashamed… I had...

When I say Tej saved my life, I am not exaggerating. I went to Tej during a mental breakdown, intense bursts of anger, paranoia and trigger responses. I felt crazy, out of control, ashamed… I had been sober for a year and was seriously struggling to cope with life. Very early on Tej helped me understand I had CPTSD, A diagnosis that has helped remove shame for so many things in my life. A reason for the turbulence, the angry outbursts, behaviour that had destroyed so many relationships. She gave me incredibly helpful breathing exercises which I used frequently to calm myself down - honestly it felt like the first time I took a breath in 20 years. I saw Tej over the course of a year, initially to work through and understand my CPTSD symptoms, but as I began to trust myself and our relationship more so many aspects of my life came up. My relationship with my father, who I was about to cut out of my life when I met Tej, is ok now. We are not extremely close, and I understand why, but I am very grateful to have him in my life. I also grieved the death of my mother with Tej, 15 years after her passing. I began to learn how to cry, to feel the big emotions which I had been avoiding my whole life. The grief of my mothers death and the pain of my fathers own trauma had me utterly lost and hopeless. With crippled self esteem and a total fear of relationships. I am now in a long term happy relationship, the first of my life. And I am literally living my creative dreams at work. It is not that life is easy at all - I still have big feelings and triggers, but I now believe I can get through them. I am stronger, not ashamed, and brave in how I live. Tej’s voice is in my head, encouraging me, calming me, pushing me. I feel so extremely grateful to have met her and recommend her to anyone who is struggling with trauma or other mental health issues. I must also say I was so wary of Tej in my first session (as I was with anybody new!), but she made me feel so safe and the truth that grew between us has been so incredibly healing.

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I have never done therapy before and being in an incredibly vulnerable position I was nervous about the session. Tej was five minutes late and when we scheduled another one during the session she...

I have never done therapy before and being in an incredibly vulnerable position I was nervous about the session. Tej was five minutes late and when we scheduled another one during the session she emailed to reschedule because of a clash- please note that she was the one to suggest thé time. Tej knew my circumstance and knew that this was something I was in need of. She also did not respond to my email suggesting I look at alternative timings to Fridays at 1200 due to work commitments, she just cancelled the session and refunded my money.

Tej . commented

I am sorry that you have felt the need to write such a negative review. Our sessions are online and the evidence of when our session started does not indicate 5 minutes late. Unfortunately, sessions can run over and I let everyone know, which I did in our case, as the message is stored online. I asked to meet an hour earlier the day before our next scheduled session as I had overlooked another appointment (which was personal). As you state, you were incredibly vulnerable and not even sure of whether you wanted to engage in regular therapy hence not committing to a regular weekly time yourself, which makes my scheduling difficult too. I cancelled your session in advance as I did not want you to get charged….. I tried to meet your needs and I am sorry that you feel I let you down. It is such a shame that you did not feel able to let me know personally despite our initial connection.

Dr Tej Kondel

Consultant Clinical Psychologist

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It is hard to find the words to describe what changes have happened since I had my first session with Tej. I don't think I really even understand what is happening to me but it's all extremely...

It is hard to find the words to describe what changes have happened since I had my first session with Tej. I don't think I really even understand what is happening to me but it's all extremely positive. I have only had 4 sessions so far and the past 4 weeks have been the most emotional but liberating of my life. I've had a range of mental health diagnosis given to me through my life - anxiety, depression, OCD - and I had completed numerous rounds of CBT with little effect. I have been on what can only be described as a lifelong roller coaster of overwhelm and underwhelm with little space in between of actual peace for any length of time. I lived with an empty feeling inside me that never went away, like a void that could never be filled with anything as much as I tried - work, food, people, hobbies, alcohol or even myself - this left me feeling like there was something fundamentally wrong with me and I would blame anything and everything for my own internal pain and disconnection. This was all relatively manageable (because I'd never known any different, I thought this was normal) until I has a breakdown 5 years ago and then subsequently spent the years since in some sort of huge crisis whether that be relationally or professionally or anything in between. I felt completely stuck, numb and empty and unable to move forward or that there was any point to life or even a future. I was swinging between being completely disconnected or in a state of massive distress; it just kept getting worse and it affected my thoughts 24/7. After a few years of this rollercoaster and more attempts at CBT, I finally found Tej. I chose Tej because she does a range of different therapy methods and I was so sick of feeling the way I did that I wanted to finally get to the route cause of my issues rather than treating the anxious/ depressive surface level symptoms. I never really knew much about Complex Trauma and thought that my upbringing was relatively normal - there was no one massive trauma in my past but there was a lot of difficulties and confusion that I am only just starting to realise really affected me. What I'm learning is that by linking the past with how you relate to and connect with others in adulthood you start to find some peace. You have to allow yourself to start feeling all these feelings (I never really understood what feelings even are and wasn't really allowed to feel them growing up - all I ever really felt in adulthood was pain or numb and empty) but now as one feeling now comes up, more just seem to follow and with it a lot of tears sometimes! This can be very difficult at times but feelings don't kill you. I'm feeling more clear headed that I have in years, less impulsive, less reactive, less attached, less empty and alone. People around me are noticing changes. I feel like I'm more grounded, I haven't felt like drinking alcohol, I haven't felt like binge eating. I'm only at the start of this journey but I finally feel hopeful. Like I'm at the entrance of a tunnel that somewhere far off in the distance there is actually light at the end, rather than it being complete darkness. My only advice is trust the process and don't hold back however much it hurts and however difficult it might feel. Don't even think about it - book a session with Tej.

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