8 Years Experience
Every day, I help people like you to feel happy, calm, in control, confident, assured in who they are, motivated, energetic, more healthy, sexy, successful, peaceful and with a clear sense of their meaning and purpose - fulfilled in every aspect of their lives including their relationships – its life changing and the results are permanent.
Is it magic? No, I do this by using my expertise, tools and experience as a professional qualified Counsellor and NLP Practitioner. With over 8 years of success under my belt, I know the right questions to ask you, how to really listen and learn all about you and your life and then I use special tools and techniques best tailored to your situation and personality to help you draw out the answers and understand what has happened to you and why you feel and behave the way you do now. Then I identify what is getting in the way of your happiness and help you to safely release those blocks or painful feelings which are colouring your perception of yourself, the world and those around so that you can move forwards, feel happy and have the life you really want.
After working with me you will:
Have the Results You Came for - Free of :Depression, Anxiety, Anger, Confusion, Fear, Low Self Esteem, Emotional Pain, Relationship challenges, or other issues - after all I appreciate time is precious and you don't want to waste a minute longer feeling like this.
Feel Happy, Calm and In Control
Enjoy Your Life to the Full
Attract Quality Friendships and Enjoy Socialising
Be Clear on What You Want and Which Direction You Want Your Life To Go
Find 'Real Authentic You' and Feel Freer and More Joyful
Discover Your Meaning and Purpose In Life
Enjoy Living in your Skin
Embrace and Enjoy 'Alone Time'
Feel Greater Contentment and Desire in your Relationship
Attract Your Solemate
Smile More and Feel Refreshed and Healthier.
Have The Confidence To Achieve Your Life Dreams.
Recover Yourself and Your Life Following a Loss
Restore Your Emotional Health if you are an Adult who was Sexually Abused as a Child.
How I will deliver these results for you:
1. Weekly 1-hour high quality online video calls with me (working towards your desired outcomes)
Free Zoom video recording of your session available for you to playback at your leisure
2. Sessions are structured and include detailed history taking
3. Using an interactive, creative, talking therapy called Emotional Therapeutic Counselling
4. The option of homework to continue progressing between sessions or want to go faster
5. Techniques and creative tools to both recognise and release painful feelings by working with your emotions:
• Identifying and Releasing emotional wounds frozen in time currently in your subconcious mind.
• Various types of journaling,
• Drawing tools and writing tools
• Your Timeline
• Emotional Inventories
• Questionnaires
• Physical techniques and tools
• Anchoring new beliefs and overcoming habits (NLP) and other exercises.
• And many more.................................
All explained clearly and sent direct to you via email.
You will be encouraged to take ownership in the process so in time when you feel ready to go it on your own again you will no longer need the Therapist or any other Counsellor again.
Clients have fed back that online sessions were suprisingly just as personal feeling as face to face, with no travel costs or time taken up and can fit around your busy lifestyle or timezone with more appointment flexibility at short notice. The therapy goes at your pace and the number of sessions will vary according to your needs but as soon as you feel you have achieved what we agreed then formal sessions will come to an end and maintenance sessions are available on an adhoc basis if clients wish whilst they are starting their new lives.
A dread I have is that clients might think I would keep them attending longer than they need but I take pride in saying I have never done this my whole career and often I am the first to say - 'Do you know I feel you are ready to do this on your own now. I think you are ready'. Honesty, integrity and trust are my top three personal values.
What am I like to work with?
Clients describe me as: capable, intelligent, approachable, professional, honest, a good listener and someone who will gently challenge procrastination and be very supportive in helping empowering you overcome any fears because ultimately, I am focussed on helping you get what you want.
I have a broad outlook on life and have worked in other different industries in the past.
Can you Trust me?
By choosing a fully qualified BACP Registered Member and National Counselling Society Accredited Counsellor you get the following as standard:
1. 30 Counsellor hours of mandatory continual professional development each year.
2. The Latest informed approaches in Counselling/NLP
3. Your Counsellor reports in to and is monitored by a Supervisor to ensure the Counsellor is fit to practice and
in adherence to the Code of Ethics of the Foundation for Emotional Therapeutic Counselling.
4. Compliance with the Data Protection Act 1974 and GDPR. Password protected online meetings & secure
data storage.
5. Full Professional Indemnity and Public Liability Insurance
6. A clear understanding of the professional boundaries and sanctity of the Therapeutic Relationship which
only exists within the counselling session and safeguards the client.
*(British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists)
Clients can be concerned that a Counsellor may invest in them too personally.
I have a very clear understanding of the professional boundaries and sanctity of the Therapeutic Relationship which only exists within the counselling session and safeguards the client and the Counsellor.
This is my job, however for you I understand that this is your life.
I am very lucky that in my job I get to see clients change their lives for the better but I know when its time for me to step out of their lives again – the moment they have what they have come for -then I know I have done my job right. If you are fed up with living with the impacts of how you are feeling and are now ready to tackle them once and for all and get the life you really want then just let me know. I hope that my case studies below will inspire you. The Reviews are all real but the names have been changed.
Case Studies with Testimonials:
Case 1: Depression
Tim a successful executive had been suffering with depression, bad sleep, low self esteem and anger issues for as long as he could remember but couldn't understand why. He had loving parents & fundamentally a good life. Using tools, techniques, visualisation and detailed history taking I was able to draw out a lot of shame based angry feelings experienced during secondary school held frozen in time in his subconscious mind. Together we were able to identify how his school age self felt 'as if no matter what he did he was never good enough' and in order to hide this feeling and be acceptable to others he had unconsciously suppressed his true self to please others. So to collapse Tim's depression I helped him identify and let go of his child self’s limiting beliefs about himself, validated his right to be his original true self (currently suppressed and hidden); empowered him to strip away his false self persona/mask & safely release his angry suppressed feelings - freeing him of his depression forever. After this he restored his sleep, reviewed his current job and sought a more interesting better paid one, he and his girlfriend moved into together and booked a month travelling abroad for the following year.
Tim:
Working with Sarah has taken me from absolute rock bottom to a place in my life where I'm no longer trapped in the cycle of depression and anger. Sarah is warm and easy to talk to, I was able to open up and unearth memories and feelings that I hadn't explored in decades. It is not an understatement to say that working with Sarah has changed my life. If anyone out there is feeling low, suffering from depression or suicidal thoughts you don't have to. Depression isn't a life sentence and I urge anyone who is suffering to reach out to someone and from personal experience you couldn't do better than going to Sarah Cunliffe.
Case 2: Relationship Problems:
Jim and Phoebe were on the cusp of relationship collapse when I helped them individually to look into their past using the timeline tool & other tools which helped them to understand that emotional wounds experienced in childhood had led them one of them to feel unheard and the other to be terrified of conflict for fear it might lead to abandonment.
Having identified this I was able to help each of them to safely and privately release their individual suppressed and out of date childhood feelings that were affecting their adult relationship. They had also experienced very different learned experiences of love as children (one showing & understanding love through sexual physical touch whilst the other showing love through practical acts of service. They weren’t recognising the love being communicated and both felt unappreciated. So, we then worked on them learning each other's different love languages. I worked as the go between and soon enough both felt more loved, heard, secure and happy. Feeling more secure and heard the couple then learned not to run away from conflict but to focus on hearing each other out rather than just winning the argument and together they learned that they could assert without shouting and that they could make the experience less stressful and without the risk of being rejected. After they shared with me that they had moved into together, enjoyed a much more fun and fulfilling sex life and were planning their marriage.
Phoebe
Sarah has been the most wonderful therapist and has had an enormous impact on my partner and I’s lives. Her unobtrusive and supportive approach made us both feel so welcome and able to open up to her, and she has completely turned our relationship around. We both felt truly listened to by her and her skilful approach in helping us to understand how the other person was feeling has moved our relationship from the verge of a break up to the most stable and positive it has ever been. Sarah is clearly very in tune with how to get the best from people, working with us both in similar but different ways to meet our needs. I can’t recommend Sarah enough for any couples who are in need of guidance and support. Her therapy sessions have been truly life changing for us. Thank you Sarah.
Case 3: Anxiety:
Rachel a pragmatic, cheery, intelligent physical therapist came to see when she realised she could no longer cope with the physical and emotional impacts of anxiety that she had been suffering with in recent months. We identified that she had had been betrayed and let down by a close friend and this had in turn triggered the earlier trauma of loss, tragedy and emotional abandonment experienced earlier in her life.
With a combination of tools, techniques, talking, breathing exercises and practical immediate steps to take to counter and reset her brain's early warning system for fight or flight mode she was able to not only get back in control and feel like herself again, she learned to constructively assert herself. Together we were able to eradicate her limiting beliefs, restored healthy sleep patterns, helped her heal her feelings of abandonment, express her anger, get her self-esteem back on track and restored her smile!
Afterwards Rachel shared she was much more relaxed, not worried about anything, confronted her friend who apologised and established new boundaries but saved their friendship. She also laid her traumatic past to rest and felt more at peace.
Rachel: I arrived at Sarah’s door in a bit of a mess... huge anxiety, loss of self esteem and unfinished business with a lot of the loss in my life. Quickly, with a fantastic history taking session and adept questioning, she seemed to be aware of what the problem was. Sarah has a wonderfully incisive style and made progress with me very quickly. Her recommendations for exercises and improving my sleep worked very quickly and effectively and the homework she gave me moved me on so much faster than if we had been just talking every week. She is a hugely likeable person that has a genuine interest in facilitating improvement in her client’s lives. I would not hesitate to recommend her to anyone ..... she has worked wonders with me and imparted skills on me that are lifelong gems.
Case Study 4: Child Sexual Abuse
Janine, a mother with two children and a controlling and abusive partner walked into the session with her head hung low. Severely depressed for years, down trodden and full of apologies just for being alive. Using the terrific specific tools and techniques by Penny Parks designed for Adults who were sexually abused as children and after building lots of trust with Janine in the safe space of the virtual counselling room she learned that her child sexual abuse was not her fault and that now as a woman she had control, power, strengths, talents & skills and that deserved to be treated with respect and value. In time she was able to rescue her terrified younger self trapped in an under stairs cupboard and frozen in time in her subconcious mind, we found a safe way for her to express her angry/ heartbroken feelings and and punish her abuser within the safety of visualisation and other safe techniques designed to give the person a chance to express and take control back in order to break free from associating with the victim role. I also used NLP to help Janine to emotionally disassociate from her terrible memories.
After this Janine remarried and is now in a loving respectful relationship and doing things she never dreamed possible - with new built confidence, higher self-worth, courage and conviction she teaches therapists how to care for trauma suffers all over the world.
Janine no longer suffers with depression.
Sarah is an outstanding counsellor who believes in her clients and I would highly recommend her to anyone. I entered into seeing Sarah as a broken shell and from an abusive childhood past but over time Sarah has helped me to see my truth and worth. Sarah has huge compassion and empathy, it’s very easy to be able to talk to her and express your most awful painful feelings as she is able to hold a safe place for you. I am eternally grateful for Sarah and the amazing help she has given me.
Case Study 5: Cocaine Addiction
Rocky used to enjoy taking Cocaine at parties until one day he woke up with suicidal feelings. He had a happy life and had never felt low like this before so he suspected it might be associated with coming down off a great big High feeling. The experience scared him and from that day he was determined to kick his habit for good. His first challenge was to find the confidence to say no to his friend who would offer it to him and secondly to find the self-discipline not to be tempted to take it. With Rocky's express permission I used my other training and skills in Neuro Linguistic programming to trick his brain so that when he next even thought of taking the drug he had a horrid taste in his mouth and all he wanted to do was vomit. I then also use these skills to make it easy for him to say No to his friend. After Rocky’s session with me and later that day I received an unexpected email from him and laughed out loud. He explained that he tried to test himself by imagining himself taking the drug and whilst at work he had to rush to the kitchen sink as he found himself wanting to vomit.
After Rocky’s session with me and later that day I received an unexpected email from him and laughed out loud. He explained that he tried to test himself by imagining himself taking the drug and whilst at work he had to rush to the kitchen sink as he found himself wanting to vomit.
Rocky no longer uses Cocaine.
Amazing experience working with Sarah. Pinpointed the problem in my brain and treated it within one session. Easygoing and will always listen to anything on your mind, which is key in therapy!
Case Study 6: Never Feeling Good Enough – 'I think there is something wrong with me'
Raoul, a bright graduate hauled himself into the waiting room- tired sunken eyes downcast and turned away. Since he was 8 years old he had experienced a terrible sense of being a failure, not good enough and he suffered with extreme social anxiety and no friends. Very self critical he was afraid I might judge him or think him silly for asking for help. I explained to him about how trauma can affect the brain’s early warning system and these affects combined with deep personal feelings of shame and fear experienced through childhood bullying had caused his limiting beliefs about himself and his social anxiety. During his sessions I encouraged him to imagine a resourceful, assertive, articulate version of himself and revisit some of his childhood shame scenes via Visualisation where he had the chance to re-do the scene and handle it differently and say what he had always wanted to say. He was also able to give his feelings of shame back to the school bullies who had given it to him. Releasing painful suppressed subconscious feelings, identifying & debunking limiting beliefs, rescuing his school age self and sticking it to the bullies gave Raoul a sense of power and control again and having expressed his anger he found his voice and confidence.
Afters sessions Raoul no longer associates with a victim mentality nor cares so much what other people think of him, Raoul says now that knows who he really is and feels at peace with himself, living his life with integrity and a clear meaning and purpose. He has since changed career to something that makes him happy and fulfilled and he has developed some friends.
Raoul no longer lives in the UK.
Accreditations
- (NCS) National Counselling Society
- (BACP) British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
