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7 Years Experience
Welcome. My name is Michele. I'm a registered and accredited (BACP) and (UKCP) psychotherapist - I help individuals and couples with their emotional health. I have private sector experience as a counsellor and psychotherapist. My focus involves abuse, depression and narcissistic personality disorder, and the specific...
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"Some of the good things: sincere interest in both the client and in the therapeutic process. Genuine engagement and energetic feedback. Offers to help and provide support even outside of sessions. He may be a good therapist for some people. However, my experience was eventually very negative. Michele made a lot of rigid assumptions about my situation across various areas of my life. A particular problem was him challenging my narratives of abuse and imposing his own restrictive/reductive/presumptive models of the situation, and eventually reinforcing the damaging messages I had had when I was younger. He eventually superimposed the stereotype of the difficult teenager over my situation, questioning whether I had been emotionally abused in the way I said despite the extreme and criminal situation my mum eventually ended up in, the facts of which I assumed spoke for themselves in validating my own story. The whole experience just closely replicated the lack of belief and support I had had growing up, and ended up reinforcing rather than unpicking the negative self-beliefs which had become ingrained during my earlier years. At its root I believe the problem was the rigidity of the models being imposed, it felt like I was often unpicking assumptions about my life and personality. Perhaps cultural or generational differences played a part. I intially appreciated something with a bit more feedback than an entirely person-centred approach, but found the models used to be restrictive and sometimes even stereotypical. I think in future my main pieces of advice would be to appreciate diversity and complexity more, to make less assumptions about someone's life experiences, and also to have a conversation about whether someone who regards themselves as having been abused is willing to have their own narratives about abuse challenged. For me it was a long and fragile journey to recognising the way I had been treated and reject the views others had created of me, and this is something I need to protect. It does not go without saying that those who regard themselves as abuse survivors are willing to have their narratives repeatedly questioned or challenged. If I had known that this was the direction we would go in, I would have cut it off after the first session, as for me the eventual facts speak for themselves as they do to everyone else in my family without exception, and this rabbit hole is an unnecessary and unproductive one (aside from being distressing to me). The problem I have is not my narrative of abuse, but the fact that for so many years I did not realise or understand that this was what was happening to me."
"I recently had my second session with Michele Lamonaca and he has already started to make sense of a situation that has for years made no sense to me at all. I'm in no doubt that with Michele's help and guidance I will learn to move forward with my life in a way that is right for me. Thank you for all your help in finding the right person for me to work with."
"Michele put me at ease straight away and I feel I will benefit very much from further meetings with him "
"Michele is a paitent, understanding and incredibly helpful therapist. It has been a long and painful journey but it’s been made all the easier knowing that I’m in a safe pair of hands."
"I attended an appointment with my partner and we would recommend. Michele. He is welcoming and we felt at ease when we were talking to him. He listened without judgement and let us speak our thoughts and feelings. "